Emman and I make it a point to go on weekly or at least bi-weekly date nights, especially since we started having kids. Date nights are a chance for us to regularly reconnect and spend intentional time with each other. I look forward to a nice meal, talking about things other than household logistics. I know some couples do date nights at home, opting to watch a movie or to eat dinner together once the kids are asleep. More often than not, we prefer going out for dinner because the change in scenery helps us talk about non-household related things and let’s face it, watching Netflix doesn’t really lead to meaningful conversations.
Of course, going out means leaving the kids at home. When they were younger, our kids often asked why we had to go on date nights (sometimes with tears in their eyes). We explain that “Mommy and papa need to spend time alone with each other to love each other better. When daddies and mommies love each other better, they can love their children better too.” We also tell them that the most important relationship we have after our relationship with God is our marriage. Keeping a relationship strong means spending time with one another. We hope that giving them the right perspective about marriage early on in life will benefit their own marriages in the future.
How do you explain date nights to your kids? Any tips to share?